Saturday, January 29, 2005
A Happy Couple - My daughter and son-in-law
Taylor and Justin - Wedding Reception - Summer 2004
Posted by Hello
Taylor (20 yrs old) and Justin (19 yrs old) decided they wanted to be together more than anything else in the world! So, they eloped while Justin was in Basic Training for the army in Georgia on May 27, 2004 -- when she drove down with his parents for his graduation. Yes, I was upset at first! Why? Because she is my only daughter -- and I wanted to be able to throw her a wedding of a lifetime -- or to at least be included on the most important day of her life!!! Yes, I also wanted her to finish college and get her degree before marrying. But, they decided on their own the way they wanted to do things. And Troy and I eventually came to terms with their decision. We had to -- because we love them... We also know that Justin loves our daughter very much, which is very important to us!
Troy and I were again surprised by them with another decision they made recently! Taylor called me in November to tell me I am going to be a Grandmama.... At first, it was rather difficult for me to swallow as her parent because I knew she and Justin were only now adjusting to their new lives together. Don't get me wrong, I am proud of their accomplishments together, including the fact that they are learning the ropes as a young couple facing new challenges/responsibilities. But, as a parent, you love your children so much that you only want the best for them -- you don’t want to see them hurting, in pain, or struggling (financially, physically or emotionally). Since she and Justin had just recently married and were learning to live with one another, and take care of “themselves” for the first time---- not to mention the fact that they live 2,000 miles away from their families, I have to admit that my shocked reaction was more of concern rather than pure excitement. I kept thinking in my head (as a parent), why can they not first get on their emotional/financial "feet," develop indestructible strong bonds/grow together, get through the military and college, then move back somewhere close to me/their family so I/we could build an everyday/close relationship with my/our grandchild???
Now, several months later, following hours of self-reflection, I am happy to say that I am looking at this with a new and fresh perspective.... The shock has worn off, etc. and although I will continue to be concerned (as a parent always will be), notwithstanding my initial shock and worry, I will always love them with all my heart and will also love their baby/my grandchild ---and that is the real bottom line here.
Posted by Hello
Taylor (20 yrs old) and Justin (19 yrs old) decided they wanted to be together more than anything else in the world! So, they eloped while Justin was in Basic Training for the army in Georgia on May 27, 2004 -- when she drove down with his parents for his graduation. Yes, I was upset at first! Why? Because she is my only daughter -- and I wanted to be able to throw her a wedding of a lifetime -- or to at least be included on the most important day of her life!!! Yes, I also wanted her to finish college and get her degree before marrying. But, they decided on their own the way they wanted to do things. And Troy and I eventually came to terms with their decision. We had to -- because we love them... We also know that Justin loves our daughter very much, which is very important to us!
Troy and I were again surprised by them with another decision they made recently! Taylor called me in November to tell me I am going to be a Grandmama.... At first, it was rather difficult for me to swallow as her parent because I knew she and Justin were only now adjusting to their new lives together. Don't get me wrong, I am proud of their accomplishments together, including the fact that they are learning the ropes as a young couple facing new challenges/responsibilities. But, as a parent, you love your children so much that you only want the best for them -- you don’t want to see them hurting, in pain, or struggling (financially, physically or emotionally). Since she and Justin had just recently married and were learning to live with one another, and take care of “themselves” for the first time---- not to mention the fact that they live 2,000 miles away from their families, I have to admit that my shocked reaction was more of concern rather than pure excitement. I kept thinking in my head (as a parent), why can they not first get on their emotional/financial "feet," develop indestructible strong bonds/grow together, get through the military and college, then move back somewhere close to me/their family so I/we could build an everyday/close relationship with my/our grandchild???
Now, several months later, following hours of self-reflection, I am happy to say that I am looking at this with a new and fresh perspective.... The shock has worn off, etc. and although I will continue to be concerned (as a parent always will be), notwithstanding my initial shock and worry, I will always love them with all my heart and will also love their baby/my grandchild ---and that is the real bottom line here.
# posted by Lawchick2005 @ 1:20 AM 
